YOU'RE THE ONLY ONE I CAN TELL: INSIDE THE LANGUAGE OF WOMEN'S FRIENDSHIPS

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"At a time when the messages we give and get have so many more ways to be misconstrued and potentially damaging, a book that takes apart our language becomes almost vital to our survival as friends." -THE WASHINGTON POST

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LISTEN TO RADIO INTERVIEWS ABOUT THE BOOK

NPR's 1A "A Little More Conversation: How Women Talk to Each Other"

NPR's WBR The Joy Cardin Show "Understanding the Language of Girl Talk"

WNYC's The Leonard Lopate Show "Deborah Tannen on how Women Talk"

READ ARTICLES BASED ON THE BOOK

The New York Times, "My Mother Speaks Through Me"

The Washington Post, "Women Friends Like to Handle Conflicts by Talking Them Out. But Does It Work?"

Time.com, "Why Friends Ghost on Even Their Closest Pals" 

New York Magazine, "A Linguist Breaks Down What We Really Mean When We Call Our Friends 'Close'"

The Atlantic, "The (Sometimes Unintentional) Subtext of Digital                                                                                            Conversations"

The New York Times, "Women's Friendships, in Sickness and in                                                                                                          Health"

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TIME's Motto, "The Truth About How Much Women Talk -- And Whether Men Really Listen" 

The Washington Post, "It's not just Trump's message that matters. There's also his metamessage" 

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